Guardian Angel Inner Child Healing Meditation

In the Guardian Angel Inner Child Healing meditation, we - as our present adult selves - will travel back in time/space and visit with the child aspect of us at the moment of highest disturbance - at the moment of the dark night of the soul. This is a very beautiful, moving and also extremely powerful and personal inner child healing pattern.

Inner Child Healing Meditation The Guardian Angel This is a very beautiful, moving and also extremely powerful and personal inner child healing meditation. The Guardian Angel meditation can be performed in self help meditation by anyone who can imagine well and keep their focus on an internal story or unfoldment. It is also a beautiful hypnotic journey when guided by a competent hypnotherapist or workshop leader. The Purpose Of The Guardian Angel Meditation In all "time space healing" of a person, but especially in inner child healing, we are dealing with a damaged system, but we are STILL ALIVE today and so we did indeed, survive even the worst trauma and experiences. There was always a time, however, when we didn't think we would make it through. These are the times of highest trauma, and of highest damage; and indeed there can be aspects of us who DO NOT EVEN KNOW THEY ARE STILL ALIVE AT ALL. When that happens, we are in what is known as "soul loss" territory. In the Guardian Angel Inner Child Healing editation, we - as our present adult selves - will travel back in time/space and visit with the aspect of us at the moment of highest disturbance - at the moment of the dark night of the soul. We will do this in a very specific way - we ARE the Guardian Angel, we are just VISITING there, and we will give the one who we were THEN the strength to make it through. What happens when we do this is to RE-CONNECT the then to the now, but without re-living these events; this allows our current strength to flow through to the aspects of our totality who need healing, nutrition, and to become a part of our greater totality once again. For our current self, it will give us a very different perspective of the events and THE POWER TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE at last. This is true time/space healing for the energy body, the mind, the energy mind and also our physicality, as these events are stored all over our totality in holographic fashion and need to be re-connected. Preparations For The Journey First of all, we need to be calm and clear; and if this is appropriate, we should invite a guide or helper to accompany us on this journey back in time. Find someone who is powerful, steady, loving and you can trust to accompany you. Before you go, be sure to know that on this day, you are NOT a victim nor even a survivor, but that YOU ARE the Guardian Angel, an emissary from the future and a representative of the Creative Order, who will undertake this journey to right what once went wrong, and to bring Even Flow to where there once was chaos. Finding The Child Now, and this does NOT need great hypnosis or preparation, we will simply fly back in time and space, to those events back then, the exact time and space where these events took place, rushing fast as time and space do not exist in these dimensions and no distance is greater than it cannot be traversed with a blink of the eye. Find yourself near the place and in the time when the events did occur. You are not a part of this time but a visitor from another dimension, and the participants here cannot see you, but as you observe the events and remain steady and calm, focus entirely on your past self, at this their worst time of life, and it is your job to give your attention, send your energy of love, support and sustenance, to give your strength as your past self battles with those events. Fulfil the role of the Guardian Angel absolutely, and use the power you have here to support your past self THROUGH these events, so that they will come out of it alive at least, that they will be together enough not to die, and that they will live, live long enough for this day to have come so that YOU TODAY can have returned and closed the loop, completed the healing. The Final Walk Through Now, there is one thing left to do, and that is to make your past self aware that you are there. This is accomplished by walking straight into and THROUGH your past self so that you come out on the other side and are able to turn around and those events and that time is then BEHIND YOU. This is an extraordinary energetic movement and physical experience; you will KNOW that something extraordinary has happened when you have completed this "walk through" and you turn around and look at your past self one more time. You will then know that they knew that you were there, and that you were really there, and that you DID help them make it through - you are the Guardian Angel for real. A Time Of Rest & Reflection Just reading this doesn't give you a sense how powerful this actually is, nor how much of a change this does produce in your totality. When you have done this, however, you will know; and you will appreciate that you need a time of rest and reflection as all these dissonant strands of your time/space alignments come into a new harmony. My best wishes on your journey and to all you are, Dr Silvia Hartmann If you understand this kind of energy and healing work, and you would like to learn more, we recommend Dr Hartmann's Project Sanctuary. Visit The Healing Angels Here!

Posted Apr 21, 2009

How to Design a Meditation Room in Your Home

Ten Cheap and Easy Tips for Designing an In-Home Meditation Room

 Meditation has a different meaning for everyone. Generally, it is a discipline by which one ceases to think as usual and attempts to reach a deep level of relaxation or awareness. To many, meditation is simply a peaceful act of quiet reflection. Whatever meditation means to you, it is important to have a special, secluded place where you meditate. A meditation room creates an environment in which it is easy to relax our bodies and minds. The perfect meditation room should reflect who you are. In designing the area, you should consider all the things you hold dear - your deepest dreams, passions and feelings. It should be a place to relax, renew and re-energize yourself. A place where you can breathe, think, feel, or just be. You can even think of it as the threshold between the spiritual and physical worlds.

While having your own meditation room may seem like a luxury, it is actually quite easy and affordable to create one of your own. A meditation room is meant to be a serene and calm, to serve as your own personal place of peace and tranquility. Although most of us can't afford to devote an entire room to meditation, it is quite possible to create a wonderful area to de-stress without a feng shui expert or interior designer. If you have an extra room, great! If not, any unused space where you are least likely to be disturbed will do. Simply choose from a balcony, garage, tool shed, attic, walk-in closet, basement, sunroom, or a quiet corner of your house. Even a chair on your porch or under a tree in your back yard will do. Just remember to keep in mind that the area should be quiet, clean, comfortable and clutter free. Once you designate an area, you are ready to start!

Here are 10 cheap and easy tips to design your very own, in-home meditation room:

1. Pick your favorite chair in the house and use it as your meditation chair exclusively. If you prefer to meditate on the floor, find a big, comfy cushion, a bench, or whatever you'd prefer to sit on. Place it in your meditation room. If your room has a window, seat yourself facing the window. If not, place your seat to your liking. The important thing to remember is that once you find a comfortable place for seating, you should keep it. While changing things around once in a while is fine, keeping the area familiar will keep the atmosphere relaxed, and keep you coming back.

2. Bring some of your favorite items into the space. Some good ideas might be photos of loved ones, a vase with fresh flowers or a favorite book. Anything is fine as long as it is not irritating to the eye and does not disturb your sense of peace.

3. Keep the area as empty and free of useless stuff as possible. It is definitely fine to have some of your favorite objects around, but clutter is never, ever calming.

4. If you are using a small corner of your home, putting up folding screens is a good way to make the space more personal. If you don't wish to invest in a screen, try a curtain or a sheet when you need privacy.

5. Lighting is important. While many prefer to use candles, some like to use a dim lamp. The light in your meditation room must not be bright unless it is natural sunlight. Use candles, a desk lamp, or even a floor lamp with a dimmer to create a lighting effect which is not dark enough to make you sleepy, yet dim enough to make you feel at ease.

6. Many people prefer to use items such as scented candles, incense or scented oils for aromatherapy while they meditate. I recommend these items for not only those who love aromatherapy but those who have trouble relaxing their minds. Concentrating on a scent is a good technique to distract your mind and find that place of inner calm.

7. Stereo systems and CD players are also great to have in your meditation room. There are many tapes and CDs created especially with the purpose of meditation in mind. There are various options to consider, such as rhythmic music, sounds of nature, chants or hymns. These sounds are not only designed to help you to relax, they're also great for drowning out the goings on of the rest of your household.
8. Do not, under any circumstances, bring your cell phone or laptop into your meditation space. The point is to disconnect and reflect, not to stay connected.

9. Keep some paper and pencils or pens around to write down whatever ideas may come to you while you are meditating. Oftentimes meditation can be an almost dreamlike state, making our ideas and reflections difficult to remember when we return to our regular state. Keeping some writing utensils handy will help you record your thoughts on the spot.

10. Keep the four elements of the Earth in mind when designing your space. Fire, water, earth and air are the four elements. They are just as essential to your space as they are to life. Air is already in your meditation room, so you need not worry about that. Candles will provide fire, and a cup of water can take care of the water aspect. For earth, consider a plant instead of a vase of flowers to bring life into your meditation room.
While creating your meditation room, remember to use your intuition. Your meditation room is your own sacred place. When you feel the worries of your day melt away as you enter your new space, you have successfully designed a meditation room of your own.

Sonya Arnold, Yahoo! Contributor Network
Sep 5, 2008 "Share your voice on Yahoo! websites

 

Meditation for Healing Our Emotions

A Meditation for Healing Our Emotions

I had followed a practice of regular meditation for quite some time before I began intensive healing work. Meditation quickly became a crucial aspect of that healing work itself. During all phases of healing, our emotions swirl and tumble like a stream racing over rocks. The daily practice of simply following my breath and letting the emotions come and go, neither fearing nor rejecting whatever came up, became a source of both stability and insight. When we are healing from childhood sexual abuse, we experience many difficult emotions—pain, grief for our lost childhood, anger and rage at the perpetrator or perpetrators and those who enabled them, and the shame, guilt and isolation that are the inevitable legacy of abuse. We need to be able to experience those emotions fully without being engulfed by them. I found that meditation helped me do that. With practice, we can learn to recognize emotions as changing currents that flow through us, rather than identifying with them and remaining stuck in them. See Many Paths Interfaith Ministries

We have paid

We have to understand that each opportunity to have something good happen to us or to have someone good love us is the universes way of showing us we are not broken or dirty or even bad. We are loved and should expect the best in our lives especially because we paid a great price through our abuse we do not owe the universe anymore for all the good it has to offer us so go out and claim all that is good for you. 

Proactive Parenting: Use These Tips to Help Prevent Children from ever Being Abused

Jill Starishevsky knows the horrors of child abuse better than most – she’s a prosecutor of child abuse and sex crimes in New York City. The mother of three is also the author of My Body Belongs To Me (www.MyBodyBelongstoMe.com), a children’s book intended to prevent child sexual abuse by teaching children that their bodies are their own.She shares the following 10 tips for keeping children safe from predators:

1. Safety in numbers. Find out what the policy is for one on one contact. Organizations can limit or eliminate the opportunity for abuse if there is a policy requiring a third person to be present (whether it is an adult or another child). In a sport such as tennis where there may not be a third person, parents should consider being present for the lessons.
2. Safe touching vs. unsafe touching. Have a discussion with your child about what types of touching are appropriate in that particular sport. With a contact sport such as football or wrestling, be explicit about what behavior is acceptable and what is not. Teach your child to come to you and ask questions if they are uncertain. Discuss whether there are other touches that you have not addressed.
3. Use a broad brush. While parents may have concerns about protecting their child from a coach, they should keep in mind that other children can be perpetrators of sexual abuse against a child as well. All lessons should apply to anyone who might touch the child inappropriately, whether adult or child.
4. No secrets. Period. Encourage your children to tell you about things that happen to them that make them feel scared, sad or uncomfortable. If children have an open line of communication, they will be more inclined to alert you to something suspicious before it becomes a problem. The way to effectuate this rule is as follows: If someone, even a grandparent, were to say something to your child such as "I'll get you an ice cream later, but it will be our secret", firmly, but politely say "We don't do secrets in our family." Then turn to your child and say "Right? We don't do secrets. We can tell each other everything." Secrecy is the most powerful weapon in a child abuser’s arsenal.
5. Identify a “safety zone” person. Teach your children that they can come to you to discuss anything, even if they think they will get in trouble. Convey to them that you will listen with an open mind even if they were doing something they should not have been doing. A safety zone person can be a neighbor, family member, religious official or anyone who your child feels comfortable confiding in should something happen to them and they are reluctant to discuss it with parents. The safety zone person should be advised that they have been chosen and should be instructed to discuss the situation with the parents in a timely manner. Keep in mind that child predators often “entice” their prey with something inappropriate such as allowing a child to watch an adult movie or miss school, letting them smoke a cigarette or drink alcohol. Children will often be reluctant to tell about inappropriate touching for fear they will get in trouble for the drinking or missing school. Explain to children that they if someone touches them inappropriately, they should tell the parent or the safety zone person, even if they did something that they were not allowed to do.
6. Teach your child the correct terms for their body parts. This will make them more at ease if they need to tell you about a touch that made them feel uncomfortable. Teaching children only the nicknames for their private parts can delay a disclosure. An 11-year-old who only knows the term hoo hoo for her vagina may be embarrassed to tell someone if she is touched there. If a 5-year-old tells her busy kindergarten teacher that the janitor licked her cookie, the teacher might give the child another cookie, not realizing she just missed a disclosure.
7. Practice “what if” scenarios. Say to your child, "What would you do if someone offered you a treat, or a gift when I wasn't there?" Help your child arrive at the right answer, which is to say no, and ask you first. Many parents also encourage children to walk or run away in this situation if the person is a stranger. Parents should note that giving a child a gift and asking them to keep it a secret is a very common step in the process of grooming a child for sexual abuse.
8. Teach children to respect the privacy of others. Children should learn to knock on doors that are shut before opening them and close the door to the bathroom when they are using it. If they learn to respect the privacy of others, they may be more likely to recognize that an invasion of their privacy could be a red flag meaning danger.
9. Let children decide for themselves how they want to express affection. Children should not be forced to hug or kiss if they are uncomfortable. Even if they are your favorite aunt, uncle or cousin, your child should not be forced to be demonstrative in their affection. While this may displease you, by doing this, you will empower your child to say no to inappropriate touching.
10. Teach children that No means No.
    Teach children that it is OK to say No to an adult. Without permission from you, many children may be reluctant to do so even if the adult is doing something that makes them feel uncomfortable. Teach children that all of these lessons apply to children as well. If another child is touching your child in a way that makes him or her uncomfortable, teach your child to say No, get away and tell someone. When someone tickles a child, if the child says No, all tickling should cease. Children need to know that their words have power and No means No.

Editor’s Note: This story is reprinted by permission of the author, Jill Starishevsky, and the National Alliance for Youth Sports’ SportingKid magazine, in which the story was published.
Also, check out Little League’s Parent Guide (PDF) on how to protect children from a potential child sex offender.

Survivor/Thriver stage 1 step 6: Anger (TRIGGER)

Anger is a natural reaction to child abuse. Yet survivors have a hard time managing anger. They veer between lashing out or over-controlling it, not knowing when it is appropriate and when it isn't, not knowing how to express themselves forcefully without overdoing it. You were no doubt angry as a child, but probably were not able to express the anger safely in your family. You may still be afraid of your anger because it may have been intricately connected to many of the bad things that hurt you. But bottling up your anger will also block your recovery because, without ventilation, the anger may turn into aggressive behavior.
Many survivors do not express their anger overtly. In addition to turning the anger inwards into anxiety, self-loathing and depression, many survivors develop habits that serve to cover over their anger and dull its impact. Compulsive eating, drinking, sexual activity and a host of other behaviors serve to blunt the anger as well as the pain, shame and isolation that arise from abuse. This kind of behavior - often called self-medicating in the case of alcohol or drug use - masks the underlying feelings and promotes a blustery, but often hollow, public image.If you have to express your anger to better manage it, the best strategy is to externalize it - that is, to get rid of it by discharging it outward. But do it safely, with maximum control, and direct it where it belongs: at your abusers. Of course, it is not always possible to do this, nor is it always advisable. […] Practicing how to express your anger and learning how to turn it on and turn it off will not only be therapeutic, but will also give you the skills to use your anger in appropriate ways in the real world.
1. If you have not already done so, make a list of techniques you can use to help you identify and manage your anger. For example, become aware of the body signals that tell you that you are starting to feel angry. Try to figure out what is making you feel this way. Is it something in the present or is it a replay of an old tape from your childhood? If you find yourself getting angry, take a "time out" and give yourself a chance to calm down. Call a friend or a hotline for help in figuring out what is triggering your anger.
2. There are many ways that you can safely express your anger on your own without hurting yourself or anyone else. One of the best ways is to engage in active sports where you can bash a ball: tennis, racquetball, baseball. Virtually any kind of physical activity such as aerobics or dancing will reduce your feelings of anger. You can write about the anger in your journal, exercise, go for a walk, scrub the floors - whatever will dissipate the anger in a safe manner. Other more direct expressions of anger are hitting pillows, screaming in your house or car (though not when driving) and learning martial arts or self-defense skills. Other more intellectual avenues include getting involved in public speaking and political marches and activities.
3. Write drafts of letters to your abusers expressing your anger with them. You can get a lot of the anger sorted out by writing long letters that detail every imaginable angle of your anger. Whether you send the letters or not is up to you. Sending these types of letters is considered a confrontation, so you will want to give this issue serious consideration.
Professional Help
1. Use your therapy sessions to explore using some techniques for expressing anger at your parents/abusers. Besides the "empty chair," psychodrama and other Gestalt therapy techniques that use role-playing and reenactment of family situations are especially powerful for survivors who want to practice expressing their anger toward their parents/abusers.

2. The major work of therapy during this stage is to develop a flexible control over your anger. Anger in itself isn't bad, but the expression of it can be harmful to you and to others around you, and so you need to learn to differentiate situations and responses to those situations. Identify situations where you lose control of your anger as well as situations where you need to use your anger more constructively to stand up for yourself. Work out new routines to handle your anger and then practice these routines in your therapy sessions before trying them out in your everyday life.

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Afghanistan’s ‘dancing boys’ are invisible victims - The Washington Post

The world can't heal if the children are damaged... Warning Trigger

Afghanistan’s ‘dancing boys’ are invisible victims - The Washington Post